The bride in ‘Blind Married’ sounded as enthusiastic as a politician after an overnight meeting about the nuclear trip

The UK had ‘the funeral of the century’ and we also had something plannedyesterday. Namely: ‘the largest wedding party in Flanders’, organized by’Blind married’, which this season allowed all couples to celebrate theirmarriage together.

Stefaan WerbrouckTuesday, September 20, 202211:00

In previous seasons, after the duos had said yes, they were each allowed tosound out on the union with family, friends and colleagues, but this timeeveryone was pushed together in one room. The reason for that was never reallyclear during the party. Did the makers start looking for rooms too late andwas everything already fully booked? Did people have to pay attention thistime and did they get a nice deal there in Waasmunster in exchange for somedrone images of the building and surroundings? Or does ‘Blind Marriage’ wantto go more along the lines of the version in Australia, where the couples havebeen celebrating together for years and then also travel together, whichcreates extra tension and sometimes sparks between two people who strangelyenough not matched by the experts.

Perhaps the answer will come from next week, when we follow the newlyweds asthey enjoy their honeymoon together. Actually, the new format of ‘BlindMarried’ isn’t the most important question that has popped into my mind in theepisodes that have aired so far, but what exactly is the role of Ingeborgshould be as a whole. The singer is a big fan of the program, so she isallowed to experience everything from the front row and after all these yearsof ‘Blind date’, she can now see couples waving and clumsily coming down astaircase. But she doesn’t become much more than a cheerleader who loves this’party of love’, thinks there is a great click between all the duos and ‘has areally good feeling this year’. I’m even starting to fear a bit that when oneof the couples will go to bed together for the first time in the next fewweeks, Ingeborg will suddenly appear and say a ‘Come on, cool!’ will be heard.

In whose bedroom is it most likely that Ingeborg will have to sit between thecurtains? Maybe kindergarten teacher Jana and emergency nurseChristian , who already have an above-average interest in each other’sbodies, how long they exercise each week and how much protein is taken in onaverage. Or that of Brecht and Dziubi , who have developed such aconnection in a matter of hours that the other couples look on with some envy.The only thing that can still spoil the game is the opening dance, which tookplace to the tones of ‘Always remember us this way’ by Lady Gaga , fromthe soundtrack of ‘A Star Is Born’. The dance itself was romantic, but Dziubisaid afterwards that both urgently needed to watch the film together and if weremember something from ‘A star is born’, then that the ending didn’timmediately have an erotic effect.

The click is less present with the two other couples: wine seller Jorenemphasized very often that neither he nor his partner Jana is the type of’coup de foudre’ and also between Florence and Jiri the initialenthusiasm has cooled somewhat. However, they were just announced by Ingeborgas ‘the prince couple’ and they were also allowed to come down the stairs lastand do their opening dance, as if the other duos were some kind of supportact. But in his speech, Jiri thanked family, friends and colleagues for theirpresence and barely mentioned his wife, as if he had won an award rather thana wife. And when Florence’s sister asked if there was any “magic,” she said”there was common ground and maybe there was potential too,” a response onewould expect from a politician after a long late-night meeting about reversingthe nuclear phase-out. .

But hey, maybe things will get better when they can stay with the othercouples in Bodrum, Turkey, a destination that was repeated so many times bythe end of the episode and even sparked such excitement among the two self-proclaimed world travelers Florence and Jiri that there was so much excitementthere. undoubtedly an agreement has also been reached with a tour operator.

These 10 Top Movies Everyone Loves and Can’t Be Hated

There are movies that just everyone likes and that we can all agree you justcan ‘t hate. Reddit users have now compiled a top 10, which can be seenbelow.

Brendan Fraser is making a big comeback thanks to his starring role in DarrenAronofsky’s new movie called The Whale. However, Fraser was a big name inHollywood in the late 1990s, early 2000s. For example, think of the beloved_The Mummy_ , which is also in this list. The movies are in no particularorder, but here they are:

The Mummy (1999) So Fraser is experiencing a renaissance, but many movie buffs are _The Mummy_not yet forgotten. The film is a mix of adventure, horror and romance. Despitethe fact that the film is already two decades old, it still feels ‘fresh’.

Here’s how one Reddit member says: Watched it a couple months ago and my wifeand I thought ‘They just don’t make movies like this anymore’. There is aninnocence and a joy to the movie that helps to explain why it remains sopopular among audiences, who watch it to recapture the unique feeling of late1990s cinema“.

The Emperor ‘s New Groove (2000) Not everyone knows this animation topper, but it scores pretty well on Reddit.The film has a fun and original story and the voices of Eartha Kitt, DavidSpade, John Goodman and Patrick Warburton also do wonders.

On Reddit, someone writes: ” One of my all time favourites. I adore thismovie Although the film was originally not a huge success, the animated filmstill grew into a beloved film for many Disney fans.

The Iron Giant (1998) Another animated film (and not the last one on this list either). The IronGiant is considered by many today to be one of the best cartoons, whichfocuses on a little boy who tries to protect an alien robot from thegovernment.

It’s the kind of movie that makes you feel again what it’s like to be a kid,and all the emotions that go with it, whether it’s joy or sadness, this moviehas it all.

Jumanji (1995) Robin Williams was of course seen in many top films, but Jumanjic iscertainly one of his better known and better films. The supernatural boardgame story is also a perfect mix of emotions and while the newer installmentsof the franchise have managed to take on some of the magic of the original,they can’t quite match the first installment with a masterful Williams.

Up (2009) It’s hard to say which Pixar movie is the best, but Up is definitely on thepodium. The film shows sadness and joy and can make you cry and laugh. It’s amovie you can’t possibly not like. The opening, in particular, remains one ofthe best openings of all time.

Tremors (1990) Tremors is the perfect mix between horror and comedy. In this film,starring Kevin Bacon, we follow the inhabitants of a small western townbattling sinister underground monsters. The film does not take itself toseries and if the viewer does not, you can really only enjoy it.

Home Alone (1990) Not just the movie everyone watches at Christmas, Home Alone also remainsone of the best family films out there, in which a boy has to protect hishouse against burglars. Here’s how one Reddit user says: ” That movie is DieHard for kids. I love it and I can ‘t count how many times I’ve watched it“.

Jurassic Park (1993) Few great science fiction movies are as popular as Jurassic Park. ThisSteven Spielberg gem set the standard for what the genre could achieve anddespite the fact that there have been many sequels, nothing came close to themagic of the original. Everyone has fond memories of this masterpiece.

Stand By Me (1986) Not every Stephen King film adaptation is a success, but Stand By Me it sureis. The story mainly revolves around the powerful and special bonds offriendship rather than the film really being about horror. River Phoenix,Joaquin’s brother, stars in the film, but unfortunately he died a few yearslater of a drug overdose.

A Muppet Christmas Carol (1992) There have of course been a lot of Christmas Carol movies, but few of them arewatched with as much affection as A Muppet Christmas Carol. Michael Caine istherefore seen by some as the one and only Scrooge, and the presence of theMuppets gives the whole film a light and cheerful feeling. However, the filmalso does not shy away from the sadness that occurs in the original.

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Why Belle from ‘Beauty and the Beast’ may have originally resembled Angelina Jolie

like the song goes, Beauty and the Beast ‘s Belle was very different fromthe rest of her Disney Princess forbearers when the animated classic gracedmovie screens in 1991. A bookish and independent young woman from a ruralvillage, Belle (voiced by Paige O’Hara) stood in marked contrast to moreglamorous royals like Snow White and Sleeping Beauty.

But according to Emily Zemler’s new book, Disney Princess: Beyond the Tiara_the _Beauty and the Beast animators — led by James Baxter and Mark Henn —originally envisioned a character who more closely resembled a glamorousmember of Hollywood royalty.

“She kind of looked like Angelina Jolie — very beautiful,” O’Hara remarks inthe book about the initial concept art for her alter ego. “I didn’t see howanybody would identify with that person. You’d look at her and put her on apedestal. Mark and James changed the look of her. She was a little tooperfect.”

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Angelina Jolie attends the UK Eternals premiere in London in Oct. 2021.(Photo: Samir Hussein/WireImage)

For the record, it’s unlikely that Jolie was the direct inspiration for Belle.The Oscar-winning Girl Interrupted star was only a teenager when Beauty andthe Beast was in production, and didn’t make her feature film debut until1993’s Cyborg 2. In Zemler’s book, Baxter says that he and Henn initiallyenvisioned Belle as being “more European-looking with fuller lips, [and] alittle bit darker eyebrows” — characteristics that are certainly identifiedwith Jolie. According to Beyond the Tiara though, the celebrities that didserve as reference points for the animators included Elizabeth Taylor, NatalieWood, Audrey Hepburn and O’Hara herself.

“The animators created a lot of concept artwork and dozens of sketches to findthe best fit,” Zemler confirms to Yahoo Entertainment via email. “You can seein the sketches how much Belle evolved. Paige O’Hara recalled early versionsof Belle looking like Angelina Jolie, but that is simply Paige’s perception.None of the animators I spoke with mentioned Jolie as an inspiration forBelle.”

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As pre-production on Beauty and the Beast continued, Baxter and Henneventually came to agree with their star that Belle had the potential to be atransformative Disney Princess and revised their image of her accordingly. “Iknew this was going to change the view of Disney Princesses,” O’Hara says inthe book. “Belle was the first one not looking for a man. She wanted to seethe world and all the places she’d read about in books.”

Emma Watson played Belle in the 2017 live action adaptation of the Disneyanimated film.  (Photo: Laurie Sparham/Walt Disney Pictures/Courtesy EverettCollection)Emma Watsonplayed Belle in the 2017 live action adaptation of the Disney animated film.(Photo: Laurie Sparham/Walt Disney Pictures/Courtesy EverettCollection)

Emma Watson played Belle in the 2017 live action adaptation of the Disneyanimated film. (Photo: Laurie Sparham/Walt Disney Pictures/Courtesy EverettCollection)

Belle did ultimately change the face of Disney Princesses, directly impactingthe way subsequent characters like Jasmine, Pocahontas and Mulan were written— not to mention drawn. “Belle opened the doors to who could be considered aDisney Princess even wider, welcoming a broader fanbase in with her,” Zemlersays. “Her representation, both in character and in appearance, encouragedthose making aladdin to make Jasmine more adventurous and spirited. It had aripple effect.”

That emphasis on spirit and adventure carried over into the live actionadaptations of many classic Disney cartoons, including upcoming versions of_The Little Mermaid_ and Snow White , starring Halle Bailey and RachelZegler, respectively. (Emma Watson played Belle in the 2017 film version of_Beauty and the Beast_ but the character has also been portrayed by a varietyof diverse performers on stage and screen.)

“In 1937, the cartoon [ Snow White and the Seven Dwarves ] was so focused onher finding true love, and it’s not even in her mind at all in this film,”Zegler told Yahoo Entertainment at D23 last month. “Maybe she finds love.Maybe she finds friendship. But what’s really important is that she finds herown voice.”

For Zemler, Belle’s lasting legacy has less to do with her looks and more todo with her attitude. “I’ve always admired Belle’s spirit and her love ofbooks,” the author says. “Sometimes we think of a classic princess as blondand perhaps somewhat shallow, but Belle undercuts those traditional cliches.She is a devoted daughter, a kind friend and she understands the world throughreading books. In that way, she’s someone to whom a lot of us relate to oraspire to be.”

Beauty and the Beast is currently streaming on Disney+; ** DisneyPrincess: Beyond the Tiara is available now at most major booksellers,including Amazon.**

Language virtuoso mathematician Jan Beuving rhymes happily about an absurd existence

The family of Jan Beuving (39) will have to work hard for a pleasantSinterklaas evening. The comedian cannot accept that ‘communication’ rhymeswith ‘tail division’. He explains it in his third solo show remainder : withthe first word the stress is on the beginning, so rhyming must be done on boththe first and second syllable. Beuving demonstrates it in a wonderful songfull of rhyme to ‘long division’. An innkeeper getting strangled? Then thereis ‘valuation’. A verse about Saint Nicholas teaches us the word ‘beardcaress’.

The song is characteristic of Beuving’s style: witty, original, linguisticvirtuoso. He became known as the ‘math comedian’ who merged his two educationsinto one profession. And with success, he won the Neerlands Hoop and severalprizes for his song lyrics. Although still a man of theory and science, in histhird solo Beuving moves away from his image and pose as a teacher. Sometimesliterally, for example when he emphatically ventures into a small dance aftera song. Another signal: the somewhat caricatural checked blouse has beenreplaced by a hipper one.

Truth beyond facts

remainder is a tightly structured performance about finding truths outsideof the facts. What is real and what is fake? And what remains after the mostthorough analytical methods? Beuving teaches us: there is always a remainder,just look at long division. In remainder explains to Beuving what that’rest’ entails for him. It results in melancholic stories about faith andamateur football, two important subjects in his life.

Beuving is a great lyricist. He evokes beautiful and strong images especiallyin his songs. For example, about Jamal, a boy from his former football team,to whom you could trust a ball.

Beuving is in remainder more personal than in his previous performances, butdoes not have the maximum effect. His frankness, for example about the role ofreligion in a secular existence, is sometimes hard to grasp. “Rhyme candisguise a lot”, says Beuving himself in a nice joke about the ‘Dansen-metJanssen’ slogan and he proves himself right. Even in songs full of archaicwords and complex sentences, he always finds a (rhymed) way out, but theemotional power of the lyrics sometimes suffers. Beuving’s story often remainssomewhat elusive.

Dead / scrap

This does not alter the fact that remainder is a decent representation. It’snice that Beuving makes no secret of whose shoulders he rests on. A highlightis a tasty story about Jeroen van Merwijk and his song ‘Partycentrum Waselinkin Winterswijk’. Entirely in the style of the late comedian, Beuving paystribute to him in a great song: ‘If only I were dead, no longer riveted tothis earthly scrap. Jeroen van Merwijk waits there and he says not withoutpleasure: see God sitting there, he is almost as good as I am.’

‘It was a relief, although it made me cry too’

Juliëtte broke off contact with her mother. With that she took Yfke (7) andNinthe (5) from their grandmother.

Juliette (34): “My mother is a complicated woman, perhaps that sums it upbest. There’s not one thing I don’t like about her, it’s a whole host of badsides that have led to us not seeing each other now. It was actually a longtime coming. My friends have told me so many times that they would have pulledthe plug long ago, but it is my mother and I only have one of them. So I keptforgiving her, over and over. Until last Christmas.

Put salt on every snail

I don’t know if she drinks too much. Well, my father also liked a drink, onlymy mother had a bad drink in my youth. She was fine for the first two glasses,then everyone around her started walking on eggshells. She put salt on everysnail, exploded for nothing and scandalously crept into the victim role. Idon’t remember how many times my brother and I were told that we loved ourfather more than we loved her. Well, it was a reproach that touched me verymuch as a child, perhaps because it contained a kernel of truth. My father wasmuch nicer than her.

Always in the foreground

My mother is verbally very present. Always in the foreground; I used to beashamed to death on a regular basis. She can’t listen either. When you tellher something, you see her searching for words to tell her own story rightthrough. Most of all, she is very busy with herself.

“When you tell her something, you see her searching for words to tell her> own story through it”

When my father died suddenly nine years ago, his funeral was more like ‘TheGreat Annet Show’. She had no eye for the grief of my brother and me. Sheplayed the grieving widow, all in black, with huge sunglasses and crocodiletears. I didn’t find her grief believable. My father and she had been in amarriage of convenience for years.

At the drink after the service she drank a bottle and a half of wine. She gotinto a big fight with my father’s brother on the spot; it was too embarrassingfor words. ‘Take good care of your mother’, my uncle said when he left themourning center emotionally. I took those words seriously. Now that my fatherdidn’t do it anymore, I had to make sure she didn’t completely derail.

In trust

I missed my father terribly. My mother’s grief was over the day after thefuneral. She started dating; Not a month went by without her hooking anotherguy. I didn’t want to meet them; it was a pattern that it didn’t last even aweek. She blamed me for that: didn’t she also grant me my happiness with myfriend Niels?

A year after my father’s death, I was pregnant. I had told my mother inconfidence because it was so early, but that afternoon I receivedcongratulations from all quarters. She had trumpeted her about becoming agrandmother and didn’t care that we wanted to keep it a secret for a while.’I’m going to be a grandmother’, that’s how she brought the news, not’Juliëtte is pregnant’. That choice of words typifies what she is like.Everything revolves around her.

Niels and I wanted to keep the gender to ourselves, as a surprise foreveryone. That became for my mother with a drink another reason for a bangingargument. She felt left out, she cried. In the end I gave in. I had no energyfor her whining.

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Even during my pregnancy she made it clear that I should not think that shewould babysit, she also had a life of her own. I hadn’t intended to ask her atall; it also regularly happened that she already had a glass of wine at lunchand then got into the car with a sip. Just the idea that our kid would be inthe backseat with her gave me panic attacks.

“You don’t want to argue with my mother and that’s why she gets away with a> lot”

Yet, when Yfke was born, she criticized me for seeing her far too little.Niels’ parents did babysit one day a week and she was clearly jealous of that.Not on the watch out, but on the contact. It made her mean. For example, shewould have Yfke on her lap and she would say in a cooing voice: ‘Yes, ofcourse you don’t recognize Grandma Annet, do you? Grandma Annet barely gets tosee you.’ I let a lot come over me, just like my father always had. You don’twant to argue with my mother and that’s why she gets away with a lot.

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New friend

Three years ago she ran into her current boyfriend Goos. Just like my mother,Goos likes a glass of wine and their relationship is cracking. They can rageagainst each other and the next moment they are kissing deeply again.

When they come to visit us, I always have to recover afterwards. They startone discussion after another and, the more they drink, the louder and moreindiscriminate they talk. Not infrequently they get into the car with twicethe legal amount of alcohol in their blood. And they’ve already left arguing afew times, leaving me in tears. It eats energy.

snarl

Last Christmas I invited my mother and Goos. My brother was also there withhis children; I intended to make it really fun. Days before I had been busywith the shopping and I had gone to great lengths in the kitchen, evenhandwritten menus on the perfectly laid table.

My mother said nothing about all my efforts when she came in. Even during themeal I didn’t get a single compliment about my cooking. She did talk a lotabout her renovation and she regularly asked if there was still wine. Shedidn’t care about the grandchildren at all. When Ninthe got a little grumpyafter dinner, my mother snapped at me to put her to bed. I thought of mymother-in-law, who in such a case would have gone upstairs with hergranddaughter to read and tuck her in at length.

The breaking point

‘How awful she is’, my brother sighed when our mother and Goos were smoking inthe garden. Those words were a breaking point for me. Horrible: she was, yes.And coincidentally also my mother, but that didn’t mean I had to let her makeme unhappy any longer.

“Just because she was my mother didn’t mean I had to let her make me unhappy> any longer”

Entirely according to tradition, the evening ended with a fight. That night Ihardly slept and the next morning I made it clear to my mother in a long emailthat I don’t want to see her anymore. It was incredibly relieved, although itmade me cry too. I have not received a response to my email. I have insultedher to the bone with my rejection.

I find it very sad that I have taken from Yfke and Ninthe their grandmother,but I saw no other option. Strangely enough, they hardly ask about her. Idon’t miss my mother, it hurts me that I never had a mother who is also therefor me and my children. That my in-laws are such sweethearts makes up for alot. Who knows, the contact will one day recover, but for now I think it’sokay; she gave way too much noise on the line.”

This article appears in Kek Mama 08-2022.

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More women accuse Adam Levine of sending raunch messages while married

More women have come forward accusing Adam Levine of sending raunchy messageswhile married to Behati Prinsloo. The Maroon 5 frontman apologizes to hisfamily on Tuesday after Instagram model Sumner Stroh claimed she had a year-long affair with the singer. Levine is publicly and privately denying anythingphysical happened, but admits to flirty exchanges with women.

Model Alyson Rosef shared her alleged direct messages with Levine in a now-deleted TikTok. “I shouldn’t be talking to you you know [that] right,” Levinesupposedly wrote. Rosef claimed she had many more messages, but didn’t want toshow them as they are “not appropriate.”

“A lot of my friends knew, and they were shocked,” she said, adding, “I guessif any other girls have experienced this with him … I just think they shouldpost it ’cause I feel really bad for his wife, and nobody deserves this.”

Another woman, comedian Maryka, shared alleged DMs from Levine on herInstagram story with the hashtag, “#ExposeAdamLevine.” He appears to droolover her body in several messages.

“I’m now obsessed with you,” Levine wrote.

“Dude aren’t you like married lol,” the comedian replied.

“Yes but it’s a bit complicated,” Levine said, adding, “I might get away.”

Maryka included a video Levine sent of himself saying, “I’m stupid.”

In one head-scratching exchange from June, Levine tells Maryka he’s expectinghis third child with Prinsloo.

“I’m having another baby. Wifey pregnant! And I’m having a BOY. And I’m naminghim Zea. He will be a bad ass,” Levine wrote.

Levine’s former yoga teacher is the fourth woman to publicly claim he sent heran inappropriate message while in a relationship. It was before he wasmarried, though. Alanna Zabel shared her story with the “ExposeAdamLevine”hashtag and alleged that one text (“I want to spend the day with you naked.”)destroyed her life, as her “jealous ex” saw them and was “violent” with her.She claimed Levine ghosted her and fired her from his tour.

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Stroh, who set off this firestorm on Monday, claimed Levine messaged her inJune and asked if he could name his unborn baby after her. The model allegedthat she and the singer had a year-long affair. After Levine’s statement onTuesday, in which he admitted he “crossed a line” but denied having an affair,Stroh wrote on an Instagram story, “Someone get this man a dictionary.” In anew TikTok, she apologizes to Prinsloo.

“I’m not the one getting hurt in this. It’s Behati and her children,” Strohsaid. “And for that, I’m so, so sorry.”

A source tells people that Levine is maintaining “nothing physical happened.He swears it.” However, he admits to having “inappropriate” conversations withwomen who are not his wife.

“He was messaging [Stroh], being flirtatious with three women. One of them —she specifically said they have a physical relationship but he is completelydenying that to friends,” the insider adds.

As for why Levine was messaging other women, the source claims to _people_that Levine craves “female attention.”

Related video: Adam Levine releases statement after Sumner Stroh claimedthey had an affair

“He likes it more than most,” the unnamed insider says.

As for asking Stroh whether he could name his baby Sumner, the source addsthat the request showed “very bad judgment.”

Levine and Prinsloo, who confirmed her pregnancy just last week, have notpublicly commented on the sex of their third child. The couple, who married in2014, are parents to daughters Dusty Rose, 6, and Gio Grace, 4.

Fans unearthed old comments from Levine about monogamy that are certainlyinteresting given the scandal. When asked by Cosmopolitan in 2009 why mencheat, he replied: “Instinctively, monogamy is not in our genetic makeup.People cheat. I have cheated. And you know what? There is nothing worse thanthe feeling of doing it.”

Column | Tinnitus as an enemy

Tinnitus, also known as tinnitus, has been getting a lot of attention lately.There is great concern about the laconic attitude of outgoing young people whoare not so careful with the number of decibels their ears can tolerate.

The information page of the Dutch Association for Ear, Nose and ThroatMedicine reports that two million Dutch people have a form of tinnitus, 10percent of whom suffer from it a lot, and it causes psychosocial problems inseveral tens of thousands of people. “Fortunately, we know from experiencethat a very large part of this group eventually learns to deal with tinnitusand can function again (as well as possible) in society and social life.”

Nevertheless, I would strongly urge young people to prevent tinnitus. Thenoise level in entertainment venues has not been allowed to exceed 103decibels since 2018, but the KNO Association advocates 100 decibels (withearplugs in). Even at 100 decibels you still suffer damage without hearingprotection, says Henri Marres, professor of ENT surgery, in de Volkskrant.

I have heard young people say that they are willing to take the risk, becausefor them noise is part of going out in clubs and concert halls. May I, as anexpert by experience, interfere with this for a moment? Finally an expert!

In October 2002 I attended a concert by the Italian pop singer Gianna Nanniniin Paradiso. I wrote in it that week NRC Handelsblad a laudatory columnabout it: “She sang with an astonishing devotion for an accomplished artistand she moved around the stage like a Mick Jagger in his prime.”

Little did I know then that I would regret this visit for the rest of my life.The music had been loud and because of the crowds on the floor I had beenstanding way too close to the speakers all evening. A few weeks later I hearda noise in my left ear and immediately I had a premonition: this will neverstop.

That has come true. One night of thoughtlessness and you’ll never lose yournoise again. With one it is a noise, with the other a hiss, hum, squeak,whistle or a combination of such sounds. It starts out modest, some days it’sbarely there, but it grows steadily over the years, at least that’s myexperience.

Yet I experience less pain than before. That’s because I’ve learned toacquiesce in it. Those first years you do everything to get rid of it. I reada lot about it, talked to experts, tried therapies. I also visited anafternoon with fellow sufferers, something I can wholeheartedly adviseagainst. I met people who had it much worse than me, like that woman whoconstantly heard the sound of a vacuum cleaner blaring. Afterwards I couldonly think: is this my foreland?

Tinnitus is incurable. One doesn’t even know what exactly is the cause – thehearing organ or the brain? — not to mention a cure. What do you do with anunbeatable enemy? You dodge the fight and walk around him. You talk as littleas possible with and about him. You ignore him. You live your life as if itdoesn’t exist. Yes, writing this piece seems to contradict that, but hopefullyit will help people who are still without tinnitus. Maybe they hear me.

Sitting still in a room? A classical concert can also be different

The Great Hall of the Concertgebouw is buzzing. The music on stage, at least.The Cleveland Orchestra plays the timpani and brass bangs of Bruckners”Scherzo’ Ninth Symphony bounce off the walls. The stirring rhythms inviteyou to dance along, but that is not possible here. A man in the room makes acompromise and performs a tiny choreography over his armrest: his thumb andforefingers swing an imaginary baton back and forth, strict in time.

Silence and sitting still during classical concerts has always been part ofit, you would think. We consider classical music to be timeless, and that alsoapplies to etiquette.

The opposite is true, says Thomas Delpeut (1988). He is a lecturer in culturalhistory at Radboud University in Nijmegen and will soon complete adissertation on nineteenth-century concert culture in four major Dutch cities.“Take the year 1815,” he says enthusiastically. “Concert visitors had verydifferent expectations of a concert. They were used to walking through thehall during the music. When something was to their liking, they clapped – evenwhen the orchestra was still playing. And if they thought something was bad,they booed.”

The halls also looked different then: in some of them there were tables, wherethe audience sat. “Even later in the nineteenth century you still had roomswhere that layout was common.” Delpeut shows a drawing from between 1850 and1860. ‘This is the Parkzaal, at the time one of the most important stages inAmsterdam, located in what is now the Wertheim Park, near Artis. You can justsee the orchestra in the background. In the foreground you see the audience.”

That audience seems mostly busy with themselves. Groups of dressed men andwomen stand around tables, talking. In the foreground you see a waiter holdingup a wine glass.

Delpeut: “For most people at the time, music was a background for the socialscene. Audience arrived late and left early. When an opera singer sang, themen would stand between the seats so they could see her better. After whichthe women sometimes went back to the chairs, so that they could see the stagebetter.”

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For his PhD research, Delpeut worked with a database of almost twenty thousandpieces of music. In this way he learned which pieces were programmed the mostand in which order. He also used magazine articles, letters and minutes fromconcert societies to form a picture of the burgeoning concert culture.

“In the past, there was a perception that Dutch concert life only becamesignificant from the opening of the Concertgebouw in 1888. Finally there was agood hall, and shortly afterwards a good orchestra. Even the public began tolisten “seriously.” I am trying to show that those events are the culminationof a process that has already started.”

In the nineteenth century there was no question of the fully-fledged concertlife of today, mostly by subsidized ensembles and orchestras. But our currentdoubts about how we can best shape classical music life in the future – therewere already those in the past. „Around 1850 there was still no fixed way toorganize concerts, the description ‘classical’ was not yet common either. ”,says Thomas Delpeut. “An important part of musical life took place in closedconcert societies, to which only men were allowed to join. Women were allowedto join as guests.”

The audience has learned that passive listening style themselves>> Thomas Delpeut researcher

Programming is a good lens to view concert life, says Delpeut; it sayssomething about musical taste and about social relationships. “The laterfavorite formula of overture, solo concert and symphony did not yet exist.Concerts often offered a mix; symphonies, solo instruments, opera arias andromances alternated. Concerts also lasted much longer. A contemporary calledit ‘Cock fur’.”

Concert by harpist Lavinia Meijer, 2020. Photo Concertgebouw

At that time, the public came for famous, preferably virtuoso soloists. Butconcert organizers, musicians, critics and visitors who considered themselvestrue music lovers felt that ensemble music deserved the emphasis. Theydiscussed the optimal program design for this purpose. Is it best to program asymphony at the beginning of a concert, or at the end? Their ideas wereinspired by what was happening in other European musical centers.

Delpeut: “In practice, a hybrid form was dominant: you program a belovedsoloist, so that you can also play a symphony by Schumann. The drawing of theParkzaal looks crazy to us now, but there people have learned to listen toBeethoven’s symphonies.”

In the course of the nineteenth century concert practice changed; attentionshifted to the music and to listening quietly in neat rows. Around 1900, thestill usual concert form of the classical concert came into being, while themusic that is played is often older. “Many people call the listening culturethat emerged ‘passive’,” says Delpeut. “But the public has learned thatchanged listening style itself. That was a gradual process.”

We are now used to the strict etiquette and form of ‘modern’ classicalconcerts. Should we let them go then? “Of course you can’t just transplant thenineteenth-century concert to our time,” says Delpeut. “But if you realizethat the past was not as rigid as is often thought, innovation does becomeeasier.”

Innovation

Researcher Veerle Spronck (1993) is also concerned with the ways in which youcan organize concerts – but she focuses on the present and obtained her PhDthis summer at the Maastricht Center for the Innovation of Classical Music.

This center was founded in 2017 as a collaboration between MaastrichtUniversity, Hogeschool Zuyd and members of the South Netherlands Philharmonic.The mission: to experiment with new ways of organizing concerts. Does she seesomething in the nineteenth-century concert form?

“I discovered that orchestras are very flexible, so yes: you can also breathenew life into ‘old’ programs. Inspiration from the past can be a great way toshape the future. But not because it should. Well, because it is alsopossible.”

I want to break the ‘wall’ between musicians and audience>> Veerle Spronck researcher

Spronck chose a performance at new music festival Gaudeamus as an example:Three Degrees from Reality by the ensemble Modelo62 from The Hague.

In the Utrecht Theater Kikker, two figures in gray nuclear reactor suitsinstruct the audience to take off shoes and socks and put on silver suits,’for protection’.

The supervisors drive the audience through a door, which leads directly ontothe stage. The floor is littered with indefinable objects. What are those cansdoing here? What does this weird mountain of blankets, pillows and feathersmean? And what are those devices in the corner? The musicians of Modelo62spread throughout the space, creating alienating soundscapes.

Towards the end of the concert, the atmosphere turns grim: some spectators aretold to “dance and enjoy” as a menacing drum beat swells. Others have to forma circle around them – which fails. Veerle Spronck looks a bit lost.

“That was a bit extreme,” she notes afterwards, somewhat relieved that theperformance is over. Should this be the future of the classical concert as weknow it?

Spronck: „The evening did offer promising elements, such as taking off shoes.That’s a ‘power move’, a way to take the audience out of the routine and makethem part of the performance.”

Spronck concludes in her research that even small changes in an orchestra’sroutine can greatly alter the audience’s concert experience. “Think, forexample, of the ensemble Pynarello, which plays without a score. This makesmore interaction possible, they also play without a conductor. And that alsobenefits the audience: you can better see what is happening in the music. Andthe audience can sit between the musicians, because there are no desks in theway.”

Spronck’s research resonates in practice; she is currently working with theSouth Netherlands Philharmonic on a new experiment. She also shared herinsights about innovation with, among others, professional magazine DasOrchestra and with the European network of artistic directors of concerthalls ECHO. Her enthusiasm is infectious, but you also feel that there isurgency behind her words. „In all reports of the Council for Culture you willdefinitely come across ‘innovation’; ensembles are therefore necessary. But Ialso think that it is inherent in the profession of an artist to ask yourself:why and how do I do what I do?”

Rosie O’Donnell Opens Up About Her Daughter with Autism in Emotional Essay: ‘She’s a Gift’

_When her daughter Dakota was diagnosed with autism at age 2½ in 2016, Rosie O’Donnell felt afraid at first. “I was worried about how she would make it inthis world,” says the star, now 60. “I worried about my longevity, because asyou speak to parents of kids with autism, their main worry is what happenswhen they die. Who’s going to love their child and understand them the way youdo?” _

It ‘s something that O’Donnell, now playing a tough-talking detective in theShowtime series _American gigolo , still grapples with as she watches her9-year-old daughter come of age in a world that does not always understand hercomplexities. “I know this is something that will be with her her whole life,and she’ll learn to adjust to a world that doesn’t necessarily go at her ownpace,” says O’Donnell, also mom to Parker, 27, Chelsea , 25, Blake, 22, andVivienne, 19. _

_Meanwhile, raising her active, artistic little girl has given O ‘Donnell newperspective. “With Dakota, I am learning to have compassion much deeper than Iever did,” she says. “To really listen and communicate in a way I never had towith my other kids. I know there are people struggling and they don’t know howthey will get through another day. And I understand. But the sense ofvulnerability that comes with having a kid with autism has been a gift to me.She teaches me.” _

Here O ‘Donnell shares their journey in her own words.

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Dakota’s first word was a full sentence before she was 1. We were watching_Frozen_ , and she said “I been…pale.” I said, “What?” and then I hear Olafsay “I’ve been impaled.” She was always highly verbal. Sometimes she wouldstare off in a way that she felt unreachable for a moment. She had a littlebit of stimming [a repetitive behavior often associated with autism] she wasdoing with her hands. She has always been very cuddly — and loves to curl upbeside me on the couch. I thought she was quirky — and beautiful and perfect.

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Still, I knew something was off, but I wasn’t sure what it was. She didn’tanswer to her name. When she was being tested [for autism], the doctor keptcalling out to her “Dakota, Dakota.” She didn’t respond. Somewhere deep down Iknew. Getting the diagnosis felt like I was punched in the stomach. I had togive myself a moment to go, “Okay, we’re going to figure out how to getthrough it.”

You can read as much as possible, but they say when you meet one person withautism, you’ve met one person with autism. It’s a spectrum. For me — it’slike an angel fell into my life. One who doesn’t function by societalstandards. I’m not taking away from the pain and hardship that this diagnosisbrings to families. All of a sudden, there’s a child with a lot of needs andyou spend a lot of time trying to connect on their level. It’s not easy — butit’s necessary to let them know they are seen.

I didn’t want Dakota to feel shame about her diagnosis. I have told her fromthe start that autism is her superpower. I hear her announcing to strangers,”My name is Dakota. I’m 9 and I have allergies and autism.” It’s like adifferent operating system.

She was endlessly curious. So I focused on how to enable her to learn in theway that her brain was set up to learn. When she was in second grade, all thekids were reading Dory Fantasmagory. Even though she couldn’t read, shewould bring the book to school and pretend. I knew for her self-esteem, we hadto get her reading. We found a great school in Los Angeles, and she’s nowreading at grade level. They have all kinds of neurodivergent kids andspecial-needs learners. It’s a beautiful melting pot.

She feels things deeply but doesn’t always express emotions. We were drivinghome one night and she said, “Mommy, there’s water on my face.” I said, “Thoseare tears. Are you sad?” and we talked about what feelings were. I held herand let her cry, reminding her everyone has feelings.

Sometimes she’s a little awkward with strangers and she’ll start to give themscientific information. She tells kids about the Mariana Trench and how to digup sea crabs. We were once playing on the beach with a new family. I said tothe dad under my breath, “She’s neurodivergent.” Then Dakota turned and said,”I have autism. It’s okay.”

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When she was 5 she asked if she could talk to her birth mother. We’re incontact, so Dakota gets on FaceTime and says, “Are you the lady whose tummy Iwas in? I just wanted you to know I’m the kid that was in there, and when Igot born, my mommy held me and I squeezed her pinkie, and I am with her. So Ijust want to let you know that’s what happened to me. Bye.” I was in tears aswas her birth mom. That’s a pretty intense, complex, emotional thing for alittle girl to put together.

Dakota is 9½ now. I’ve been fraught with anxiety when each of my childrenturned 10. I have that year of thinking, “I better not die.” I was 10 yearsold when my mom died of breast cancer. It’s a shocking thing to lose a motherat a young age. Your mom is the center. You need them for everything: trainingbras, transitioning into puberty. Going through that on my own was a scarypart of my childhood. You feel very alone. I don’t ever want Dakota to feelthat.

Dakota’s autism forces me to see the world from a completely different place.She’s a gift from another dimension. The things she knows — about sea anemonesand tide pools. I got to 60 not knowing about the Mariana Trench. Now I knowall about it! Her ability to absorb information is unparalleled. I can imagineher winning on jeopardy! someday. She teaches me. To be able to see theworld as she does — for me, it’s been a wonderfully magical experience. I’m soglad we have each other.

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Putin’s TV speech is escalation of cornered president

According to him, we cannot separate the partial mobilization of 300,000reservists from the ‘referenda’ announced in four (partly) Russian-occupiedparts of Ukraine. “Reservists are constitutionally only allowed to be deployedon Russian territory,” he explains. And that is exactly what the plebiscitesare about: citizens in the four provinces must vote on joining Russia.

The result of the referendum, which is not representative because manyUkrainians have fled the areas, is not recognized in advance by Ukraine andinternationally. But if a majority of voters vote for annexation by Russia,the Kremlin will consider the areas Russian.

It is inevitable that the West will become even more involved in the> conflict.>> Mart de Kruif, former commander of the Land Forces

According to De Kruif, the partial mobilization and the expected annexationconstitute an “unattached escalation”, including for Ukraine’s neighboringcountries. “The Baltic states will feel threatened and NATO must respond tothat. It is inevitable that the West will become even more involved in theconflict.”

The retired general also expects it to take weeks, if not months, before theRussian reservists can get to work. “You have to train them, equip them, feedthem. And there must also be enough NCOs and officers to direct them. I don’tthink we’re going to see these people at the front until spring.”

Correspondent Geert Groot Koerkamp:

“Russia was abuzz with rumors about what Putin was going to say. Many,especially young Russians, were afraid of a general mobilization, with allover 18s being drafted into the army. That fear has not completely disappearednow, although Putin has stresses that this is a partial mobilization.

A general mobilization would also not fit into the Kremlin’s narrative, whichalways says that there is no question of war, but a special military operationin which everything goes smoothly. As soon as you mention the word’mobilization’, you recognize: we are at war. Then it comes very close. Such apartial mobilization is a half-hearted compromise in that regard.”

The partial mobilization will also lead to unrest in Russia itself, expectsRussia expert Laura Starink. According to her, many Russians will try toescape, for example by leaving the country. Tens of thousands of people havealready done so in recent months, she says, mostly critics of the regime.”Often they go to Georgia and Turkey.”

According to Reuters news agency, direct flights to Turkish Istanbul andYerevan in Armenia sold out quickly after Putin’s speech. Also, the searches”How do I leaveRussia?” and”How do I break anarm?aretrending on Google. And according to a Russian lawyer, the telephoneline forinformation about the rights of military personnel called more than a thousandtimes this morning.

Nuclear Rhetoric

President Putin also used nuclear rhetoric in his speech. He accused the Westof “nuclear blackmail” and warned that Russia will not shy away from using”all available resources” if necessary in the eyes of the Kremlin. “That’s nota bluff,” he added.

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Putin’s words seem like a veiled reference to Russia’s nuclear arsenal, andthis is not the first time. But these statements in the context of announcedreferendums and partial mobilization have a different meaning, says LaurienCrump, expert on Eastern Europe and international relations.

“We see a president here who is cornered,” says the researcher, who isaffiliated with Utrecht University. According to her, Putin will not besatisfied if he comes out of the war with less than what he started with.

If the four areas with ‘referenda’ will soon belong to Russia in the eyes ofthe Kremlin, he will therefore want to defend them at all costs, she says. “Hewill not just pull out a nuclear weapon, but he also does not want to loseface. If there is fighting in areas that the Kremlin will soon consider to beRussian, Moscow sees this as an infringement of Russia’s right to exist.option will be on the table.”